AugustusSeizeHer's interest in kink revolves around using the rich language of D/s to explore relationships and interactions.  He believes that getting to know someone, r.e.a.l.l.y.  know someone, is more than a sensuous or erotic experience, more than some bondage or impact play - important to the joys of life that such activities are. Yes, sex and kinky activities are "play for grown-ups". But the WAY we "do sex", the WAY we "do our kinks", tell our playmates who and what we are.  While exploring these ideas Julian came to see that "vanilla" and "kink" are actually on the same spectrum, they are variations on the same theme that blend smoothly into each other.